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and the state of life in general
and the state of life in general
A Man is but the product of his thought. What he thinks, he becomes. - Mahatma Gandhi
Napoleon Hill says that this lesson is the most import, most interesting and most difficult lesson so far. This is the gist of the entire course and therefore the most interesting. It is the most difficult because it takes you beyond what you think you know. It is the keystone so to speak of the course.
Many of us have heard of the book or seen the movie The Secret. We try to understand that thoughts become things. But do we really?
Think of the airplane, automobile, computers and the internet. All these things began as the thoughts of the people who created the first ones!
Many of our forefathers (and mothers) created the success that was independence by their thoughts of something greater than being ruled by England.
Hill says that to think accurately you must separate facts from just information. There is a lot of information out there but how much of it is true fact. And then the facts need to be separated into two classes - the important or relevant and the unimportant or irrelevant. The facts that are important are the ones that you need, the ones that help you to grow, improve or advance. The facts that are irrelevant may still be actual fact but fall into the trivial, such as gossip, some newspaper articles and TV programs as well as the many emails and facebook comments that come across your computer screen.
The Law of Evidence, according to Hill, is the ability to distinguish between facts and heresay information. "The accurate thinker deals with facts, regardless of how they affect his own interests...". In other words, don't play with the facts in order to achieve your own goals without regard to others. Sometimes there will be setbacks when dealing honestly with your fellow man but the law of averages will always work to your advantage. Always be sure of your facts. The accurate thinker does not belittle others with slander or rumors.
If you find the person you know who appears to accomplish more with less effort you will have found someone who is able to arrange the facts so that he brings to his aid the Law of Increasing Returns. Important and relevant facts are the ones that work toward your Definite Purpose. The facts you search for are determined by what you want to accomplish. And the important ones will help you achieve that Goal. All others are of minor importance, relative to you Goal so don't spend time organizing these.
But creative thought is the evolution of the thinking man. Creative thought allows you to take the facts and use them creatively to achieve your Goals. This is sometimes referred to as "thinking outside the box".
This is an important Lesson...so more coming.
What Napoleon Hill is talking about here is a personality that attracts, not how attractive you are. What he is saying is that your personality is everything about you. Your clothes, face, voice, thoughts, character all go into making you who you are.
First impressions are indeed based on appearance. We can never get past this. The handshake you give. The eye contact that you make with a prospective client, student, customer, employer, employee, friend, roommate, lover, etc. Your body vitality or magnetism or charisma, whatever you call it, is also a part of who you are and the personality that you exude when first meeting someone.
Be genuinely interested in your clients, customer or even co-workers. NO cheap flattery just to make an impression or get ahead. Take an interest in other people and their work, business or profession. Remember again the Golden Rule - if you want people to be interested in you then you need to take an interest in other people.
To develop an attractive personality select those whose character (or qualities) you respect and with to emulate. Imagine yourself with their character and qualities and then visualize yourself becoming like this person.
Each day, find at least one person to praise about something, but be genuine. Get into the habit of looking for and finding the good qualities in others. By finding something good about someone you help them to possibly see the good things in you also.
Using affirmation, speak the affirmation that states the desired qualities you have to develop an attractive personality. This speaking sets into motion the Universal vibration through which these qualities will begin to develop in your subconscious.
One of the best qualities to develop, according to Hill, to have an attractive personality is the ability to speak. (Note to self to watch The King's Speech.) Speech and the way that you express yourself also expresses your personality. Fluency of speech is the ability to speak correctly and is something to be developed.
Another aspect of our personality is the way that we dress and in order to obtain our definite purpose, we need to dress "as if". Now, I'm not saying go out and buy expensive items but at the very least you can "dress of success" at the level that you can afford. My daughters and I make a habit of shopping the sales racks in retail stores and also go to the Salvation Army and Goodwill or consignment stores. You would be amazed at the number of name brand or designer clothes that can be had at these places for just a fraction of their original cost. And it very good condition.
Now I am not saying that certain brands or better than others or that you need to dress against your personality. What I am saying is that in many cases in order to achieve your definite purpose, you may need to make some concessions to first get to that place. Many time once you get there and have made your mark, you will be able to bring your own personality to that place. I also find it hard for someone who does not have the existing personality for a certain profession to change completely for a new profession. But then again, if you want something bad enough.
Napoleon Hill summarized the following as the chief factors of an attractive personality:
Interest yourself in others and speak to them of their good qualities
Develop the ability to speak with force and conviction in both conversation and public speaking.
Clothe yourself in a style become to you and the work you do.
Develop a positive character
Learn how to shake hands to express warmth of feeling and enthusiasm
Attract other people to you by first attracting yourself to them
Remember that your only limitation, within reason, is the one you set up in your own mind.
You will develop the art of being agreeable - you will end up doing business with people you like.
Speak ill of no man, but speak all the good you know of everybody. - B. Franklin
It has recently occurred to me that all of the great scholars, lecturers and sages were saying the exact same thing. So it is nothing new or even revolutionary what the newest New Age thinkers are saying because they are saying the exact same thing. It just needs to be said in different ways so that everyone can get it.
Paula J Kaprocki, LMT
I am a Licensed Massage Therapist with thoughts, aspirations and opinions - much like any other person on the planet!